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Sunday, 20 May 2012

Negativity

Hey guys, here is a script I wrote for an upcoming video, I'm not sure whether I'll make this video or not because I worry it's a bit serious to have on my channel and for all my family to see so here is a copy and you can tell me what you think!

Hey guys, so I thought I’d break away from the makeup stuff for a while and talk to you all like I used to. Before I started this channel, I’d just sit down and talk and write a blog post or whatever on just random topics, and the reason I’m not posting this on missleevlogs is because it’s kind of serious.

I don’t mean serious like grr serious business but I mean serious as in this isn’t to do with makeup or anything this is more to do with feelings. I’m not going to lie and say that on youtube it’s like heaven and everyone’s pleasant and we all run through flowery hills holding hands and singing, because it’s not.

Both online and in real life, I’ve had positive and negative comments about youtube. The positive comments for example are like ‘This is so creative’ or ‘I laughed so hard at your vlog’. Although I’m pretty much certain I’ve heard or read these at some point, it’s very hard to think of a positive comment off the top of my head, even though the majority of my comments are.

But on the other hand, I could probably tell you exactly when, why who etc, about the negative comments. I clearly remember the times when people have jokily make fun of me and haven’t been too serious and I never took offence. But the serious times I remember like they were three seconds ago, remember what it looked like I remember who from I remember when I remember all of the little details.

So the question is, why do we linger on the negative, why do we distinctly remember the things we shouldn’t listen to and should forget?

I remember a few years ago I was going through a hard time and youtube was my place away from it all. The people on youtube I listened to were so insightful and so happy with who they were I could hardly believe they existed. I think everybody knows that If everyone saw youtube or even the lives we live through our eyes, they’d respect us a whole lot more, because nobody can live our lives as well as we do.

I know as well that the people on youtube, as happy and wonderful as they are have had negativity their whole lives just as everyone else has. I’ve never met a youtuber who’s been a bad person, but they all admit at some point to doing or saying something hurtful or mean. It’s human nature to learn by doing and that’s why younger people tend to be a bit meaner or hurtful to others because they are unaware of their own abilities.

It can be frustrating when all you want to do is force away the negativity and focus on the positivity in your life and you can’t stop thinking about it. Whenever I’ve had a bad comment, it’s lingered on my mind constantly for at least a week after, and I don’t tell anyone and I usually just force it away somewhere into the back of my mind. But every time I get another, I think back to all the previous ones and it slowly builds up.

It’s not a cycle I want to be in and I would much prefer to just ignore things like that, and although it’s true I have a pretty thick skin against these things, they still hurt me.

So I think if you want to forget the negative things in your life, you’ll have to learn to accept them first. If you accept them, and forgive the person who said them, then you are already 99% healed because you’ve not only forgotten, but forgiven.

I definitely forgive the people that have said these mean comments because I know there’s always a motive behind it, something that’s made them angry or hurt and they are just passing it on rather than forgiving and forgetting. In a way I do feel sorry for them too as they can’t forgive and forget whereas I can, they will always feel pain and pass it to others until they learn that, and not everyone will be as educated in forgiveness as me and you. One day they’ll come across someone just the same as them and realise what they’ve been doing has hurt people, and maybe they’ll learn that way.

So through being on youtube I’ve learnt how to deal with negativity as well as having plenty of opportunities to use my skill, I hope you all can learn from my experiences before any comes your way or if any has already came your way, I hope you can use my advice to overcome the negativity.

Stay beautiful guys and I’ll see you all next week!

Thursday, 3 May 2012

'If you don't like me, then say it to my face!'

Hey guys,

I haven't posted in a while and most of my posts have been video related, so this is more a rant.

So many times I've heard people say 'If you don't like me, then why don't you just say it to my face!'. Mostly on facebook, (which btw is incredibly hypocritical, if you want them to say it to your face, then say that to theirs!) I've never had it said to/about me personally, but I can guess what someone might feel who heard that about them.

The truth is, in the big adult world, there will be so many people that you meet and dislike, but have to work/get along with. Honestly, the mature thing to do is to just not mention it. It's better the slight tension being with them than fighting or open hate, it's really hard to work with someone like that.
And truthfully, if someone I thought might not like me said it to my face, I'd be quite personally offended by that, rather than just keeping it secret. In these situations, ignorance is bliss.

I know some people might think it's strong and shows courage to act like you can take insults like that, but really everyone is hurt at least slightly by these types of comments. I don't tend to take offense, I mean if some handed you a thorn, would you take it? No! Because it's going to hurt you! But I do admit, when someone says something bad to me, I take notice. I don't take offense, but I do consider whether I believe it or not, but every time it happens less and less, so it's improving.

In conclusion, if you suspect that someone dislikes you, then at least be glad they are doing the mature thing and attempting to work with you. Step into their shoes, they are the ones who have to endure someone they dislike, they don't need someone threatening them about it! And honestly, if someone came up to you and went 'Hey, yeah I don't like you.' you would take notice.

Anyway, enough of my rambles.
I'll see you all Sunday,
- Lee xx